Monday, December 9, 2013

Miss Independent?

I've come to very sudden realization that I am absolutely not independent. I mean, are any girls really? 

Now before you get all feminist and girl power on me, I never said that girls lack the ability to be independent. Women are just as capable as men to accomplish any number of tasks. That is not what this blog is about. 

I am 100% capable of pumping my own gas. I totally know how to change my oil (by driving to the service station and having them do it, right?). I can hammer a nail, work a screw driver, take out the trash, mow the yard, hook up the electronics... the list goes on.

I am capable, that isn't the point. The point is, that in my femininity, I desire to be taken care of.

I see women post and brag all the time about their independence. About how they did it, all by themselves. And kudos! That is wonderful... not trying to downplay your ability to fend for yourself. But is that what you really want? Is that what you were created to be?

I think that somewhere throughout the years we've come to this place where the desire to be taken care of by a man is old fashioned, and that real women take care of themselves. 

Can I tell you how much I think this sucks?

And to be honest I have probably been programmed to expect this because I have an amazing Dad that made sure I was taken care of. He bought me my first car (and second). He was always there to fix the things that broke. I never worried about someone breaking in because my Dad is scary and he has a gun. 

I desire, and I think that majority of women desire to be taken care of, to be protected, and cherished. Sadly, there are many men unwilling to do their part. 

We see a generation of men that refuse to be the men of God that they are called to be, but rather sit on the sidelines while women take the lead (no, I am not talking about every guy, there are some awesome ones out there, and if you are one of them, you rock!)

I blame parents, for not teaching their sons about commitment and selflessness.

I blame the media for its constant representation of men who beat, misuse, and objectify women. 

I blame other men for not being better examples to one another.

But mostly, I blame women. I blame you for not demanding more and for expecting less than you deserve.

You deserve to be treated like a queen. You deserve to be pampered. You deserve to feel like the luckiest girl in the world... 

But we settle for fear of never finding someone else. We settle because we would rather be miserable than alone. We settle because we stopped believing that we deserve more. 

I find myself in a position of having to be more independent these days, and I hate it. Like seriously, I hate taking out the trash. 

But I've come to the realization that independence isn't for me. My life is much more full when I find myself trusting and putting my hopes in God. My day is better when I know that there is another person I can share my burdens with and depend on. 

Independent... dependent... whatever stage in life you find yourself in, I hope that you remember that God has plans for you. I hope you never settle. I hope you always remember you deserve so much more. 

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