Thursday, January 30, 2014

It's not you, It's me

My big sister and I were having a discussion the other day about people leaving the church (not about certain people leaving the church about people in general who leave the church, calm down).

She told me about a time when she was in church and she no longer felt God, that she wasn't getting anything out of the messages, and going to a church was chore rather than something to be excited about.

I think we have all probably been there at one point in our lives. But for many, this is the point where they say it's time to move one to another place where they can be in God's presence and where they can actually get something out of the message.

This is the most condescending and arrogant thing I believe anyone can do. To imply or even flat out state that you don't feel God's presence, suggests that God's presence isn't there. To claim that not getting anything out of the message is your reason for moving on, means that you feel as if you spiritually superior to what that church is trying to accomplish.

It's not me, it's you..

I get it if you just don't like the style of a church, or maybe if they are completely missing the mark... great find somewhere else that plays the music that puts you in the mood to get your worship on, the pastor who preaches in a style that helps you stay connected. 

But you need to realize that if you are stating reasons such as God's presence and getting fed spiritually, it's time consider that something might be wrong with you... it's most likely the condition of your own heart that is preventing you from receiving what God has. I assure you God is there (where two or three are gathered), but maybe you stopped looking for him.

We may get a point where we look for God in ways so specific that we being to limit the ways in which he can speak to us. 

God is there, but you won't find what you aren't looking for and you won't find it if you are looking for it in the wrong places. 

If church no longer inspires you or speaks to you, maybe it's time to consider that it's not the place or the people, but you that needs to experience change. 

God can be found in the simplest of things... a laugh, a lyric, a hug, a smile... you just have to open your eyes and look for him.

It's time to say "It's not you, it's me"

It's time to be honest with yourself. Because if this is they way you feel, I can almost promise you that eventually, you will feel the same about a new place.


  1. Love it! We had a guest pastor at our church a few weeks ago and one of the things he said in his message was: "There is a difference between Sent and Went." He was referring to the only time someone should leave a church is if they know God is calling them somewhere new. So True! Thanks for the great words my friend! xoxo

  2. Love this post sorry got a little behind on reading :) I completely agree with everything you said. It took us awhile to find a church home but when we did it has sure blessed us beyond belief.


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