Wednesday, May 25, 2016

I hate her

Wanna know something I say a lot about my little sister?

I hate her.

I mean just look at her and her husband, and that stud also known as my nephew. They are such a beautiful couple they just make you sick right? They should be on magazines. 

I show people these pictures, and tell them I hate my sister because she's so pretty. 

Now, I don't actually hate my sister. I mean, we definitely have our sister moments, but I know that at the end of the day there isn't anything we wouldn't do for each other. 

But this is something we as women do sometimes. We look at other people, and we hate and envy because they have something we desire. Maybe it's their looks, or their jobs, or their amazing metabolisms. We look at other women, and instead of valuing that person for who they are, we instead take the opportunity to remind ourselves about the things we don't have. The things that we think will make us happy. 

My sister is an amazingly beautiful person. But there is something we need to realize when start comparing ourselves to other women. 

Another woman's beauty is not the absence of your own. 

Another woman's strength is not the absence of your own. 

When I look at what another woman has, am I simply being jealous, or have I grown to a place where I can realize that I have my own kind of beautiful.

That while there are so many amazing women in this world, there is not one else that has my experiences and no one else who can do exactly what I do. 

We sometimes spend too much time seeking after perfection, whether it be to have the perfect body, to be the perfect wife, to be the perfect mom... We spend far too much time comparing ourselves and not nearly enough time valuing our individuality. Chances are, if you already feel incomplete, the ideal weight isn't going to make you whole. Our own insecurities and emptiness is what causes us to compare. The only reason you hate her is because you allow something she has to magnify the hole you have inside you. 

We have holes sometimes because we try to fill them with things that were never meant to fill us. Food, or starving our selves, or relationships, or our children, or a plethora of things. There is a God shaped hole that only He can fill. And until we learn to fill this part of ourselves with God, we will never feel complete, and we will never be able to stop hating other women for what they have. 

Because you see, you were created to impact the world in a way that only you can. I can't do the things God created you to do, and you can't do the things God has in store for me. 

When we allow God to fill the parts of us that are lacking, and then we begin to live in His purpose for our lives, we will begin to see how we as women need each other. We need people who are different. We need to work together. We need to support and love each other. 

Real women lift each other up... I don't know about you, but I am excited about that things that we women can do to make a difference in the world. I'm ready, who's with me?

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

Wednesday, May 18, 2016

The Bathroom Conundrum

I started this post by presenting some of my views on the situation, but then it started to feel a little like I was just adding to the noise. So I deleted it, and rather than simply stating my view, I decide instead to turn to scripture for some insight on dealing with this situation. 

As Christians, we try our best to live by what we are taught in the Bible. I understand that the Bible says that homosexuality is a sin, I understand that the Bible talks about how men shouldn't dress like women... I study my Bible too. So while I'm sure many can find scriptures to justify their actions, please allow me to maybe help to give another view of this situation. 

Proverbs 4:6-7, "Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situations, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." Have you prayed about it, as much as you've posted on Facebook about it? I understand that we live in a scary world, and we should all most certainly be on the look out for dangers. But my bible tells me not to be anxious about anything, and I believe the very unlikely possibility of a creeper being in our bathroom is covered in that verse as well. We all have fears, but when we fear, prayer should be our first line of defense. If this bathroom issue is something that is causing you to lose sleep at night, I highly encourage you to bring your fear to Jesus. Peace is possible, even in a situation you don't agree with. 

John 3:17, "For God did not send his son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him." If the son of God didn't come to cast judgement, why is it OK for you or I to do so? Scripture is pretty clear about various sins, but it seems that we as Christians kind of pick some topics to focus on. Judging someone who is living a sinful life and trying to throw scripture at them is probably not going to do anything but make them angry. The Bible also tells us we need to take care of our own sins, before we start trying to point out anyone else's. I am not saying that anyone is wrong in their beliefs, but some people might need to take a second look at how they present their beliefs. Are we helping or hurting? Are we spreading a message of hate or love?

John 13:15, "By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another." I don't think people are trying to be hateful, but our intolerance and judgment can give off a hateful vibe. When Jesus was on earth, he interacted with sinners, ate dinner with them and befriended them. Like in the story of Zacchaeus, Jesus didn't condemn him, he just wanted to come spend time with him at his house. Zacchaus knew he was messed up, but the love and forgiving nature of Jesus caused him to desire change. Stop fearing sinners. Love is what the world needs. I believe that most people know what we as Christians believe. How awesome would it be to see the change you can make in someone's life just by showing them the love of Christ that is in you? Love will change the world. Not homophobia, not anyone's conservative views... love. 

I am not saying anyone is wrong for not liking these issues, but what bothers me is people who want to post on facebook about it with no further actions. If these situations bother you as much as you say, start praying about it, mail your government officials about it, and for goodness sake do research and become educated about it. It drives me crazy when someone takes a firm stance on a subject when they make no attempt to understand the situation and have no intentions to actually make a difference. It's time to stop simply complaining to your facebook friends and to actually do something about it.  

The world is a crazy scary place sometimes. You need to know that God is still in control. God is not surprised or caught off guard by the bathroom situation. I've read the bible to the end, always remember that in the end God wins. 

What is Paigerific? I’m glad you asked, although I don’t have an exact definition to offer. Paigerific is my thoughts and my heart. Paigerific is my passion and my fear. Paigerific is my success and my failures. Paigerific is my blood, sweat, and tears. Paigerific is more than just simply word. It’s a million different words all rolled into one. Words like hope, grace, determination, imperfection, love, faith, insecurity… The one word I would use to describe myself? I am Paigerific.


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