Wednesday, May 25, 2016

I hate her

Wanna know something I say a lot about my little sister?

I hate her.

I mean just look at her and her husband, and that stud also known as my nephew. They are such a beautiful couple they just make you sick right? They should be on magazines. 

I show people these pictures, and tell them I hate my sister because she's so pretty. 

Now, I don't actually hate my sister. I mean, we definitely have our sister moments, but I know that at the end of the day there isn't anything we wouldn't do for each other. 

But this is something we as women do sometimes. We look at other people, and we hate and envy because they have something we desire. Maybe it's their looks, or their jobs, or their amazing metabolisms. We look at other women, and instead of valuing that person for who they are, we instead take the opportunity to remind ourselves about the things we don't have. The things that we think will make us happy. 

My sister is an amazingly beautiful person. But there is something we need to realize when start comparing ourselves to other women. 

Another woman's beauty is not the absence of your own. 

Another woman's strength is not the absence of your own. 

When I look at what another woman has, am I simply being jealous, or have I grown to a place where I can realize that I have my own kind of beautiful.

That while there are so many amazing women in this world, there is not one else that has my experiences and no one else who can do exactly what I do. 

We sometimes spend too much time seeking after perfection, whether it be to have the perfect body, to be the perfect wife, to be the perfect mom... We spend far too much time comparing ourselves and not nearly enough time valuing our individuality. Chances are, if you already feel incomplete, the ideal weight isn't going to make you whole. Our own insecurities and emptiness is what causes us to compare. The only reason you hate her is because you allow something she has to magnify the hole you have inside you. 

We have holes sometimes because we try to fill them with things that were never meant to fill us. Food, or starving our selves, or relationships, or our children, or a plethora of things. There is a God shaped hole that only He can fill. And until we learn to fill this part of ourselves with God, we will never feel complete, and we will never be able to stop hating other women for what they have. 

Because you see, you were created to impact the world in a way that only you can. I can't do the things God created you to do, and you can't do the things God has in store for me. 

When we allow God to fill the parts of us that are lacking, and then we begin to live in His purpose for our lives, we will begin to see how we as women need each other. We need people who are different. We need to work together. We need to support and love each other. 

Real women lift each other up... I don't know about you, but I am excited about that things that we women can do to make a difference in the world. I'm ready, who's with me?

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

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